Thursday, February 16, 2017

Loving An Enemy



Question: How is it going for you in loving your enemy?
A Reflection for VII Epiphany                                  All Saints’ Church, Southern Shores, N.C.     February 19, 2017                                                            Thomas E. Wilson, Rector


Loving An Enemy
 Years ago when I lived in Virginia, it was a practice of mine several times a year to leave church in Lynchburg after the services on a Sunday and drive four to five hours to Catonsville, Maryland to the All Saints Convent of the Sisters of the Poor. I would enter into silent retreat and spiritual direction from the Priest who served there, staying in a room in his residence house and eating my meals alone. The Priest was a very, very, liturgical, theological and political conservative. The only thing we shared was a love of Jesus and a sense of our own brokenness, and that was more than enough. Disapproval was irrelevant; we accepted that we were different, but we were determined to love. We were focusing in on the Gospel of John. We agreed with John that God is love, not a feeling nor a thought, and the way we would find love was to follow the Way, the Truth, and the Light into a deeper reality for those with eyes to see, however imperfectly. As Thomas a Kempis observed:
Without the Way, there is no going,
Without the Truth, there is no knowing,
Without the Life, there is no living.

 On one trip I was heavily immersed in a book, Cloud of Unknowing, a 1375 manual written to instruct new monks in a contemplative relationship with Jesus. The anonymous author wrote “God can be held fast and loved by means of love, but by thought never.” In other words, as Bill Wilson, one of the founders of AA, said: “You can’t think your way into right action, but you can act your way into right thinking.”

That particular trip I got a cassette tape copy of Cloud of Unknowing to play in the car as I was driving. There was a gentle voice reading the instructions, so gentle that I was close to being in a meditative state, which is definitely not the state to be in when you are driving over 70 miles an hour on the Intrastate Washington DC Beltway.

Jesus and his disciples did not have beltways to drive on, but they lived in a dangerous place nonetheless, traveling on dangerous roads. They had enemies who used the court systems to take advantage of the poor. A First Century example of a payday lender practice preying on the poor was the ploy of advancing money on the collateral of a coat, and when you could not repay, the court would order the coat seized. One choice was to run away and hide, in which case you would be arrested and lose your freedom and the coat. The second option would be to give up the coat and fill your life with resentment and bitterness, a life not worth living. Jesus suggested that there was a third option - when they come to get the coat, you stand before the lender and take off the rest of your clothes as well, to show them by your nakedness their greed.  By exposing yourself, you exposed their greed, and then the issue was not the coat but the reality of the hardness of their hearts within a culture of exploitation. This was a way for them to know the truth so that they and the culture might change and enter into a different way of living, holding God fast and loved by means of love.
Without the Way, there is no going,
Without the Truth, there is no knowing,
Without the Life, there is no living.

In the same way, Jesus and the disciples lived in an occupied country where the arrogant occupying forces would slap people out of their way. One choice of response was to fight back, which was considered rebellion and you would die. The second choice was to take it and stuff it all down until you are filled with anger and bitterness, a life not worth living. Jesus gives a third option - to stand up to the person who slapped your right cheek with the back of their right hand as if you were a thing in their way and say to them, “I am not a thing. I am a full human being as you are; hit me with your fist on my left cheek, so that you know what you are doing.” You speak the truth to them and to the state’s use of arrogant power so they might change the next time and enter into a new way of living, holding God fast and loved by means of love.
Without the Way, there is no going,
Without the Truth, there is no knowing,
Without the Life, there is no living

Jesus speaks of the law that allowed soldiers to require civilians to carry supplies for the occupying forces for one mile, and he gives the third option of carrying the supplies for a second mile as a way of standing up to the abuse of power, choosing a way of non-violence to speak the truth for a changed life, holding God fast and loved by means of love.
Without the Way, there is no going,
Without the Truth, there is no knowing,
Without the Life, there is no living

Within my lifetime, I have seen this acted out in a time of an unjust, arrogant, and exploitative society.  The Civil Rights struggle centered on the ways of nonviolent resistance, speaking the truth in love and choosing the third option of clogging the court systems with so many people resisting that the legal repression collapsed under its own weight. Those who quietly supported the status quo of repression by thinking that they were “Christians” could no longer face themselves in light of the Gospel which called them to a changed life, holding God fast and loved by means of love.
Without the Way, there is no going,
Without the Truth, there is no knowing,
Without the Life, there is no living

How is it going for you in loving your enemy? What is the way you will pray for your enemy? What is the truth you will share with your enemy? What is the life you will lead with your enemy?

Loving An Enemy
Not wanting to, but today I will love you.
Not a mere feeling or even good thought.
But eyes opening to see different reality,
No longer are you a thing with a threat;
the threat remains but you are no thing,
rather a lashing person in pain or in fear.
To that pain and fear I will speak a truth.
Whether you hear it is beyond my power.
I speak with my body offering other cheek
showing also not thing but pained person,
fellow child of the one who loves us both
evolving out of wombs of same star dust.
I stand defenseless and naked before you
walking over again multiple second miles
as my love will absorb your pain and fear
I pray you from pain and fear be set free
praying I not return what you’ve given me.

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