Tuesday, March 19, 2013

homily for Gwen Tyson 3-16-13



A Celebration of the Life, Death and Ministry of
Gwendolyn Speight Tyson
11-9-51 - 3-4-13
All Saints Church, Southern Shores, NC
Thomas E Wilson Rector
March 16, 2013

People do not get what they deserve and bad things happen to good people. The center of our faith is a man named Jesus, a good man who had bad things happen to him. That presented a problem for his followers because it was a scandal for in the old view of religion was that if you were nice to God, God would be nice to you. If anything happened bad to you then that was proof positive that God was turning God’s back on you.

One of the people who believed that old view of religion was a man named Saul of Tarsus; except Saul had this experience with the Risen  Lord and he saw that God was present in the middle of everything, even in the middle of the broken places of life. In the lesson for today he writes to the church in Rome to tell them what he believes and says; “Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will hardship, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

One of the problems about being my age, and I am a few years older than Gwen, is that we really wanted to believe what we were being told when we were growing up in the 50’s. Our parents and grandparents would say to us, “You children have it so easy. Well back in my day ...“

In school and Sunday School we were told to believe in progress. We were told that life was going to be easier for us. Our parents had been through the Great Depression and World War II and, so the idea went, all of the hard stuff was going to be behind us. The way science was progressing we were going to be the generation that would have it easy. All the major diseases would be conquered and we would all lead healthy and long lives. We would have labor saving devises and so we would have lots of time on our hands as houses would clean themselves, meals would cook themselves, clothes and dishes would was themselves. We eventually would have flying cars that would take us wherever we wanted to go. We would have so much money we would not know what to do with it all. All we had to do was work hard, lead an honest life, be a good person, believe in God, and everything would be all right as we pass it on to a new generation and they will have it even better.

The problem is that life is not easy; it is hard. Our parents wished life to be easy for us and we wished it for our children and grandchildren; but the reality is that life can be very hard and unfair.  Jesus knew that things are rough in life so he sent out his followers two by two to help each other not to be discouraged and to walk together through whatever comes their way.  Jesus said that “Whenever two or three are gathered in my name I will be there in the midst of them.” Therefore it was not one, or two walking alone but three, for the Christ was with them. When the disciples went out two by two they had no idea that Jesus was with them and it was only after his death that the disciples realized that distance or even death does not end the connections.

Forty one years ago Mary and Gwen stood together and heard a preacher say “Those who God has joined together let no one put asunder.”  God joined them together and Jesus walked with them. In fact that is the place we seem to find where God is most real in the space between two people. The church gets so busy doing church stuff that we have to depend on people who get married to each other to show what love looks like. Gwen and Marty have demonstrated what love looks like and each step of the way there God’s living spirit giving them strength.

We gather together to give thanks for Gwen’s life and love. For those of us who are stranded on this side of the shore, we ask for the strength to place her in the arms of God who lovingly accepts her as God’s child and cradles her in the arms of Grace. We also ask for the strength for you to find God walking in the sacred space between each of you when you have been so used to seeing only Gwen.  We also ask for the strength to help guide the youngest generation to know that love does not die and Gwen’s love is still walking with each of them.



Marty has this poem that he likes called “Footprints” which he went to for strength which is a paraphrase of this chapter of Paul’s letter to the Romans. In this poem Jesus answers a dreamer’s question about where was God when things were rough?   
“The Lord replied,


"The times when you have


seen only one set of footprints,


is when I carried you."









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