Thursday, March 7, 2013

reconciliation vs. being right



A Reflection for IV Lent                                            All Saints Church, Southern Shores, NC     March 10, 2011                                                 Thomas E Wilson, Rector
Joshua 5:9-12              Psalm 32          2 Corinthians 5:16-21             Luke 15:1-3, 11b-32
I had a situation come up this past week at the Forum Concert of the Vienna Boys Choir.  Pat and I are season ticket holders, and we have wonderful seats which we got after the Stricklands left town. They really are wonderful seats! Before the show began, Pat and I were doing volunteer usher duty helping people find their seats. Pat had put her wrap over the seats to indicate that they were taken so that we could fulfill our ushering obligations.  Did I mention these are wonderful seats?  The place was sold out, and extra seats had been set up for the overflow. We finally had everybody seated and headed back to our seats, our season ticket seats, our numbered season ticket seats - I did tell you they were wonderful seats? The lights start to go down.  And we find there are two women sitting in our seats - our wonderful seats! Pat’s wrap had been moved and set aside as it was in their way - in our seats. We asked them to move and they responded that they had been sitting there since they had come in. We told them that, yes, that may have been true since the reason we were not sitting in our seats, Our Seats, was that we were helping other people find their own seats, but these were our seats. They ignored us as the show began.

For a few moments, your Rector entertained enjoyable fantasies about doing grievous bodily harm to these two women who were stealing our seats.  Heck, we were ushers! I was totally within my rights to lay my hands on them and escort them out of the building. They were old and bent over, so I was pretty sure I could take them, these thieves, without breaking a sweat. I briefly wondered if tossing them into the aisle would break any bones in their hips when the show began, and if their screams of pain would get in the way of the Vienna Boys Choir hitting the right notes. I figured that, even though I was right, as right as right could be, and they were wonderful seats, it would not be a good career decision for a Priest to drop kick two little old ladies in public at the beginning of the performance of the Vienna Boys Choir.  I could picture the headlines: “Local Father Kicks Out Two (Not One, But Two) Prodigals! He proclaims he was doing God’s will, enforcing the sanctity of private property, and that thieves need to be punished!”
We saw the performance from another venue, and it took me almost all the way through the choir’s singing of  Buxtehude’s setting of Cantate Domino (“Sing to the Lord a New Song”)      before I stopped grinding my teeth. The choir kept singing, and my sense of ugly entitlement faded in the light of beauty. There is something about the pure sound of a group of innocents singing about God that tends to take the resentment out of you. But it did put me in mind of the lesson for today, about the story we call the Prodigal Son. The point of Jesus’ parable is not to focus on the Prodigal but on his Father, who represents God in the Kingdom of the Heavens.

The setting for the telling of this story is Jesus being criticized by the Pharisees for eating with the outcasts. The Pharisees understood that there were good and necessary reasons for the maintenance of a civil society based on respect for God’s law. The Pharisees understood that if one ate with sinners, one took the sin of the sinners into themselves, as one was seen to condone the sin being an accessory after the fact, an enabler, of sin. The Pharisees were right in condemning Jesus; he was taking on the sins of the sinners. Jesus does not account the Pharisees position as baseless, but instead, willingly takes the condemnation on himself in order that the lost might be found.  This is what one does in forgiveness - to pay the price for the one who is in the wrong as a way of showing love and desire for reconciliation.    

I would have been a better preacher of the Gospel if I had made a gift of those seats to the people who did not deserve them, paying the cost myself out of love. The problem was that, out of my cowardice that making a scene might reflect badly on me, I chose to sulk. I wanted to revel in being “right” and unappreciated by my Father in heaven since I did not have the better seats which were my due. In essence I became the resentful older brother in the story, the one who thought he was right. But I was more than that for in my self-pity, I was also the Prodigal who had wandered far from my Father in Heaven’s example of life. 

Jesus told parables, not fables. Parables have surprise punch lines while Fables have expected morals. Fables have as their moral some timeless truth for action in a civil society. If this had been a fable, the Prodigal son would have been kicked out, with the moral, “You reap what you sow!” Jesus tells parables to show what God is doing here and now, and the punch line is that God pays the price for what I have done so that I might be reconciled to God and neighbor.

File:Rembrandt Harmensz van Rijn - Return of the Prodigal Son - Google Art Project.jpgI listened to the boys singing and, in my mind, God’s Holy Spirit called to my memory the Rembrandt painting of the Return of the Prodigal Son which he did in the last two years before his death.  Henri Nowen wrote a book of reflections on that painting before his own death and he said, “Rembrandt is as much the elder son of the parable as he is the younger. When, during the last years of his life, he painted both sons in Return of the Prodigal Son, he had lived a life in which neither the lostness of the younger son nor the lostness of the elder son was alien to him. Both needed healing and forgiveness. Both needed to come home. Both needed the embrace of a forgiving father. But from the story itself, as well as from Rembrandt's painting, it is clear that the hardest conversion to go through is the conversion of the one who stayed home.”  

One of these days when I get rich and famous from this preaching gig, I will go to St. Petersburg, Russia to the Hermitage Museum and stand in front of that painting for hours and look at the riches of the father’s vestments sheltering the threadbare, tattered dignity of the prodigal, those strong loving hands clutching the weak back of the son who does not deserve forgiveness. The truth is that forgiveness is precisely for those who do not deserve it.  I want to look at the mouth of the father as he is speaking the words of love and forgiveness to the one in his arms. I want to feel the tears of the father who paid the price for my redemption.  I want to look at the older brother whose crossed arms speak of his resentment and the weariness of not being the only center of love of the father whose love knows no barriers - and I will ask God to open my arms to receive the blessing given to the one who is willing to let go of being right.

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